Ways to stop feeling insecure

Insecurity is a lack of confidence that makes you question your abilities as a person. It can affect your self-esteem and your self-worth. If you’re dealing with a long-lasting feeling of uncertainty, discomfort, or unsureness you’re probably struggling with insecurity. There are things you can do to help you when you find yourself dealing with these feelings.

Insecurity can show up at work.

If you’ve been in a position where you could get a promotion you want, but you don’t go after it, it could be a case of insecurity at work. One form of insecurity in the workplace is imposter syndrome, where you believe you’ve fooled everyone into thinking you’re better at your job than you really are. If you’re struggling with this, or any form of insecurity at work, try to do something about it. Take a break from work occasionally and do something you know you’re good at. Speak to coworkers that you know you can trust about feelings you’re having. Try some coaching or professional development in any area you’re not trusting yourself in. A professional therapist can always help you deal with insecurity at work too.

Insecurity can show up in relationships.

Whether it’s friends, family members, or romantic partners, insecurity can become a part of your personal relationships. If it happens to you, one of the most important things to do is to communicate openly with the person. Set aside time with your loved ones to talk about your feelings and what’s happening with you. Go ahead and have that deep conversation about what brings you security and safety. Relationships can be tricky, but honesty and openness can help you quite a bit when it comes to feelings of insecurity.

There are lots of other causes of insecurity.

There are many types of insecurity. It could stem from your body image, your perfectionism, or your social anxiety. Sometimes insecurity comes from a traumatic event. If you’ve recently dealt with divorce, bankruptcy, or loss of a loved one, then you’ve probably dealt with insecurity. If you’ve suffered from any of these types of insecurity, the best advice is to develop good friendships. Healthy social networks and freedom from insecurity go hand in hand. Sometimes your insecurities can cause you to pull away from friends and family. Do what you can to keep these relationships intact.

Take some time for yourself.

Try not to judge yourself. Everyone feels insecure at some time or another. Working on yourself and letting go of any judgment can help you turn insecurity from a daily event to something you experience infrequently. Be sure and practice self-care. Get into nature, exercise frequently, and take a break from social media. Try gratitude journaling. Write down positive feelings and ways that you’re proud of yourself. Realize that you’re not the only one feeling these feelings. Talk to a professional therapist if your insecurity is too much of a struggle.

If you’re dealing with a lack of confidence, anxiety, and uncertainty, it could be a problem with insecurity. Contact Chenal Family Therapy for help.