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Setting boundaries is an essential practice for maintaining emotional safety and wellbeing, especially after experiencing emotional abuse.<\/span><\/p>\n Understanding the principles of healthy boundaries, and learning how to implement them, can help you regain control of your emotional health and cultivate a sense of safety and emotional healing.<\/span><\/p>\n The term \u201cboundaries\u201d is often misconstrued, or even co-opted by people for the purpose of manipulation. Having a good understanding of what boundaries are is necessary when creating them for yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n Boundaries are personal limits and guidelines that you can establish in order to protect your physical, emotional, and mental wellbeing, and maintain healthy relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n An example of a physical boundary might include letting people know that you\u2019re not comfortable with unsolicited physical contact. An emotional boundary that you might enforce in a relationship is the refusal to tolerate disrespectful language or physical violence.<\/span><\/p>\n It\u2019s important to understand the distinction between boundaries and demands toward others, however. You can state that you don\u2019t like unsolicited physical contact, or that you don\u2019t like to be spoken to in a certain way. You can enforce this boundary by leaving a gathering or social situation.<\/span><\/p>\n However, telling others what they can or cannot do is not a boundary. Telling your significant other what they can or cannot wear, for example, is not a boundary for you to set. If your partner acts in a way that you find disrespectful, you can\u2019t tell them that they\u2019re not allowed to act that way. Instead, you can focus on how <\/span>you<\/span><\/i> act in these situations\u2013 for example, removing yourself from the situation or, if necessary, from the relationship. 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Share your feelings, concerns, and needs with the relevant individuals\u2013 whether that person is a partner, family member, friend, or colleague.<\/span><\/p>\n Be clear and assertive in expressing your boundaries, and focus on using \u201cI\u201d statements to convey your feelings and needs without blaming and accusing.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/chenaltherapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/pexels-polina-zimmerman-3958381-scaled.jpg” alt=”Couple at therapy” title_text=”pexels-polina-zimmerman-3958381″ align=”center” _builder_version=”4.22.2″ _module_preset=”default” max_width=”29%” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” sticky_enabled=”0″][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.21.0″ custom_margin=”-5px||-1px|||” custom_padding=”||14px|||” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n In some cases, even the best and most consistent boundary-setting might not be enough to prevent further emotional harm.<\/span><\/p>\n If the situation or relationship continues to be emotionally abusive or detrimental to your wellbeing, it\u2019s important to recognize when it\u2019s time to walk away. 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2. Recognize your right to have boundaries<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n
3. Communicate openly and honestly<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n
4. Know when to walk away<\/span><\/h2>\n
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